Why You Should Keep YOU At The Heart Of Your Decisions

Why you When I was a new doula I LOVED studies. I could prove to women birth was safe! I could prove to women home birth was the safest for women who were on their second pregnancies! I could prove VBAC was mostly successful!

I felt so validated that I could even prove my role as a doula had solid evidence behind it.

As time goes on I've moved away from this kind of thinking, although I still have evidence for women who want it, as it can be useful. I just don't think evidence is gospel.

What does the evidence not tell you? Just the things that have the biggest influence on birth. The things we cannot even begin to measure.

What a woman's birth partner was like. How she felt about her body. How she felt about her sexuality. Her spiritual beliefs. Her diet. Her first period. Her first sexual experiences. How she related to herself as a woman. If she trusted other women. What birth preparation she did. If she felt comfortable with her midwife. Her birth plan. Her dream birth. If she felt loved and cherished during her pregnancy. How she felt about becoming a mother. What her own mother was like. If she had any major life events during her pregnancy. Because all these things add complexity and create unique situations.

When we talk about holistic care, this is what we should always be going back to. We just can't turn women into numbers. Women are not computers you put interventions in and get results from. They are whole human beings ❤

I am not a mini doctor, I'm a doula who believes in you. And you don't have to convince anybody your birth choices are right for you.

Transform Your Birth

I found this gem while I was going through old photos.

Me heavily pregnant with my second child. The "big baby" I needed a gestational diabetes test and growth scan for.. I refused both.. and joyously freebirthed her weighing just 7lb10.

It still amazes me to think if I hadn't been so informed I would have probably been pushed into inducing labour. I knew she was just fine.

I am so passionate about women finding their intuitive knowing during pregnancy. When you join my course you don't just get the incredible content you get my presence, like having your very own doula supporting and encouraging you.

Transform your birth ❤

Power

Power

What does it mean to be a powerful woman?

This was the topic drawn for our next women's circle the other night and I've been thinking about it all yesterday.

I used to think of power in a toxic way, the toxic masculine demanding power and the toxic feminine manipulating to get power. This meant that as I journeyed through trauma I vowed to myself never to be vulnerable again, never to give away my power again.

But true aligned feminine power is nothing like what we have been led to believe. It is intuitive, dynamic, collaborative power.

I share so much about my thoughts and feelings on being a woman, every time I feel nervous. My words are my power and I worry giving them away freely will diminish me in some way. Like I will have nothing left. But that is not the case. I let them go like birds to spread their song and then more birds land on my shoulders. I see everywhere women waking up to their true nature.

As we rise, so are others inspired to rise.

Power is remembering as women we are stronger together than apart. I want every woman to feel that intrinsic power that comes from living in their truth, from their intuitive womb space, and challenging themselves to soften over and over.