For women living in these times it is common to dislike and distrust their body. From unwanted attention, to physically being made to feel weak and incapacitated, to not measuring up to unrealistic beauty expectations. Or to cutting off undesirable female attributes in their personality to succeed in a man's world.
Then we have the industrial birth structure which is all about testing and probing and measuring a woman's body as if anticipating and expecting failure. Examination gloves, marks on a chart, machinery.
So many women are disconnected from their sensual nature. Pregnancy can be shocking in all its uncontrollable, animalistic beauty. Yet it is this animal side that is needed to give birth. If we are used to depriving our bodies and forcing them into compliance, if we are used to eradicating or suppressing the natural physical aspects of ourselves, how can we fully relax and release enough to give birth?
Many women may not resonate at all with the hypnobirthing concept of trusting their bodies to give birth as they have always eyed their bodies with suspicion and mistrust.
Giving birth is a sensual, sexual, ecstatic and natural release. It involves the woman journeying to the innermost depths of her subconscious to find the strength to bring her baby into the world.
It means she must see her body as safe, as her creative home, as her source of magic and vibrancy. It means that bodies and touch and skin to skin contact must feel safe.
I have been known to call birth surges "the shadow side of the orgasm" in how they rise and peak in the body and the physiological effect they produce in a woman.
Women often need to feel safe in their bodies to orgasm, thus they need to feel safe INSIDE as well as outside to have effective surges.
Pregnancy is a time for really delving deep into your sensual nature and reclaiming your wild feminine. You were really made to do this. It's time to claim back what you have always had within you. Savour your food, massage your body lovingly, spend time with your feet in the grass, take long baths, make love alone or with a partner, wear comfortable clothes, rest, dream, alchemise.
How would you behave if you accepted you were perfect just as you are? What choices would you make? What would you do?
“Activity: Write a love letter to your womb and/or body thanking it for all the things it has done for you.”
